by Meri Rule, LPC-S, LCDC You’ve probably come across the statement that half of all marriages end in divorce. According to the American Psychological Association “about 40 to 50 percent of married couples in the United States divorce. The divorce rate for subsequent marriages is even higher.” However, recent research has revealed that divorce… CONTINUE
Understanding Why Action is Important in a Relationship
In the decades I’ve been working with couples, the vast majority of initial couples sessions begin the same way. “We’ve been together X years, and we really love each other. When things are good, they’re really good–but when things are bad they’re really bad. Lately, small fights turns into big fights in a hurry, and… CONTINUE
Relationship Quicksand: Should I Stay or Should I Go?
Should I stay in this relationship or is it time to go? When you’re in a relationship and you ask yourself whether it is time to stay or go then you have encountered fundamental challenges in that relationship. Do these challenges indicate you simply need to work harder? Is it a sign that it’s time… CONTINUE
The Research Is In: 3 Factors for a Cheating Spouse
In general, men are more likely than women to cheat: 20% of men and 13% of women reported that they’ve had sex with someone other than their spouse while married, according to data from the recent General Social Survey(GSS). Over the last 20 years, the proportion of Americans who say they have ever cheated on… CONTINUE
Creating Family Stunt Doubles in Adult Relationships
Romantic relationships are shaped by family history Sometimes in seemingly crazy-making ways. Suppose your mother is a talented cook, and you have fond childhood memories of spending time with her in the kitchen. It would make sense if, as an adult in a romantic relationship, you enjoy preparing meals for you and your partner. This… CONTINUE
Marriage Counseling and the 48 Hour Rule
When addressing a long-standing relationship issue, it’s easy to “time travel.” Suppose your partner came home late last night. You try to bring up this issue, but it turns into an argument and the argument takes on a life of its own. Next thing you know, you’re yelling at each other, reliving some disagreement from… CONTINUE
